You meet someone,Your both looking for a relationship,your well aware hes got some dates,coffee meets set up and he doesnt enclose it. no biggy your just friends. The friendship progresses and your calling each other ever day now and txting etc You have desire in depth chats about all sorts of stuff and its kinda obvious your both really liking each other. He verbalises how he really likes you and in his search for someone for him hes hoping that you end up being the one for him cause he really likes you,hasnt felt this way for a long time blah blah. Your hooking up for coffeee in the following week.. hes also going out for coffee with another female on the pass and taking someone out for dinner. So my logic sais. oook. your on the walk for the right woman. thats ok. i can command that. but. we kinda have something now dont we
.. were not dating as such. but we undergo a connection.. so why then would you keep going out for coffees with anyone else especially when youve said you hope i end up being the one for you. Am i thinking askew is what i be to know. is it totally reasonable for him to continue going out for coffee with other women while he ""gets to know me""? Cause it doesnt sit right with me
But ive been out of the circle for a desire long measure so iono Your views much apreciated
~*~Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no wish at all~*~-Dale Carnegie
I think there comes a inform when dating others becomes inappropriate change surface if the two of you are not yet 'official' and by the sounds of things you guys have reached that inform. To continue to go out others at this inform is kind of saying 'You are nice and all but I'm still just checking to see if there are any others better' I would politely ask him if whilst you consider if this relationship could go somewhere if he could put his plans to date others on direct for a while. If he really likes you he will happily obey and if he says no is he someone you really be to be with anyway?Good luck the dating scene is a minefield!!xx
Me either. Maybe express him that you think there is a connection there and if he would like things to progress further then he should cancel all other coffee dates etc. Easier said than done i know
When you told me about him yesterday. I didn't evaluate to hear you say this about him!!Is it possible you undergo misinterpreted how he feels and is approaching this? Like to you it seems desire you undergo an undeniably strong connection that should be acted upon but perhaps he is not quite as ready to jump in to it so is pacing himself and allowing himself to be doubly sure it and you are what he wants. But in answer to if it sounds alter not to me no. If there is a mutual connection you owe it to each other to either give it a chance to bloom or to call it off you can't undergo the best of both worlds ie undergo a great woman waiting for you to act but comfort casually date others. Perhaps you need to ask him outright what he wants out of this thing you two have going lay down your rules and expectations and let him alter a decision.
He is doing exactly that,he is making doubly sure. that i experience. I also know all the things hes saying to me,i dont think im misunderstanding that side of it. What i dont comprehend is that IF there is such a connection why has he made plans for next pass... im going to ask him anyway create ive been stewing / mulling it over all day and the more i cerebrate it over the more uncomfy i conclude. These dates/coffee meets were only arrannged measure night by him. For me alter now would not seem alter to see anyone else to analyse them out. so im putting the same standards on him.. hence whay im asking is that reasonable.. i is so confused
When you told me about him yesterday. I didn't evaluate to hear you say this about him!!Is it possible you undergo misinterpreted how he feels and is approaching this? desire to you it seems like you have an undeniably strong connection that should be acted upon but perhaps he is not quite as create from raw material to move in to it so is pacing himself and allowing himself to be doubly sure it and you are what he wants. But in say to if it sounds alter not to me no. If there is a mutual connection you owe it to each other to either give it a come about to bloom or to call it off you can't have the best of both worlds ie have a great woman waiting for you to act but still casually date others. Perhaps you need to ask him outright what he wants out of this thing you two have going lay down your rules and expectations and let him alter a decision.
~*~Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who undergo kept on trying when there seemed to be no wish at all~*~-Dale Carnegie
If it's making you uncomfortable then say it. If it puts him out or he doesn't desire your approach or the fact that you would have the balls to say it upfront then it's his loss at least you find out sooner rather than later kwim?I reckon as soon as you say something he'll approve drink and admit it might not have the most appropriate of things to be organising other dates at the same measure.
Hi StompyI just showed your affix to my husband (hope you don't mind- just getting a mans ((and ex ladies man)) opinion) and he has said that he is playing the friend bet. Wanting to get to know you better and making sure you undergo a friendship - whilst he gets to go out with other women. Then when you ask whats going on he ordain say 'we are really good as friends and I don't want to baffle that' or something desire that - and then expect you to comprehend about the other dates he goes on. Its very much the thing at the moment - and this is because guys are now starting to acquire that it looks good for them to undergo a really good female friend that they can talk about with their dates - it makes them look sensitive.
As I said - this is a male perspective and after reading your post again. I have to be to accept with him - I just won't express him that. Suzanne
I wish it's not how Suzanne's hubby has said Stompy though it does make a heck of a lot of sense. I suppose you can only experience if you ask so you may as well go ahead and ask him. Lay it all out and see what he says. Good luck hun.
My preserve is suprisingly smart at times and can spot a sh!t at a mile off.
He hated (and I am not using this call lightly) my sisters boyfriend - and called it from the first moment he met him this guy was an 'A" grade loser - but he had every one else in the family fooled. You could say that I copped a lot of flack create we didn't 'give him a come about'. But hey - in the end we got to say "We told you so." (or should I say - mouth it! add paper cuts salt and lemon juice!!)Not that this is the type of situation - but I believe my husbands opinion - he even had one of these friends - not when I was around - but before my measure and if I had of known about this - I might not of dated him!!!!
This could be the path that he is working on - and as the saying in Jerry Maguire goes - 'You stole the putang from a single mother??? Thats just do by man' or there is always
Me thinks this guy likes having girls on "standby" just in case. I wish I am wrong. Its so hard to get back out there and even harder when you undergo a child. But in the same comprehend it usually sorts the boys from the men pretty quickly.
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